We will never say we are against your happiness.
We will say we are worried. We will say we are thinking long-term. We will say the world is cruel and we are only trying to protect you.
But if we are being honest — brutally honest — our resistance doesn’t come from love alone.
It comes from fear.
We Grew Up Learning Obedience, Not Choice
We were not raised to choose our lives freely. We were raised to inherit them.
Marriage was not romance. It was alignment — of caste, community, reputation. We didn’t ask if we were happy. We asked if things would “work.”
So when you speak about love, we don’t hear emotion.
We hear disorder.
We Fear What We Don’t Control
Your love feels unpredictable to us.
It doesn’t follow the script we memorized. It doesn’t respect the boundaries we were taught never to cross. And that frightens us more than we admit.
If you can choose freely, then what was the point of all the sacrifices we made quietly?
Your courage forces us to question our compliance.
We Worry About Society — Because We Were Shaped by It
When we say “log kya kahenge,” we aren’t trying to scare you.
We are revealing how deeply society still controls us.
We have lived long enough to know how whispers travel, how isolation works, how respect can disappear overnight.
What you call social pressure, we experienced as survival.
We Don’t Know How to Protect You Without Control
This is the part we don’t know how to say.
We were never taught how to support choices we don’t understand. We only know how to prevent risks by saying no.
So we tighten rules. We raise our voices. We hide behind tradition.
Not because we hate who you love — but because fear is the only language we were given.
But Here Is the Truth We Avoid
Your generation is not disobedient.
It is honest.
You are asking questions we were too afraid to ask. You are choosing love in a way we never believed was possible.
And that terrifies us — because it exposes how much of our lives were lived inside cages we called duty.
What We Need to Learn — Slowly
We need to learn that protection is not control.
That love does not destroy families — silence does.
That tradition should be questioned if it only survives by denying dignity.
And that sometimes, the bravest thing a parent can do is step back.
Final Words From a Parent
If we hesitate, it is not because we want to see you unhappy.
It is because your freedom reminds us of the choices we never made.
Give us time. Not to change who you love — but to unlearn the fear we were raised with.
We may not say it clearly yet.
But we are learning.
— Trivendra
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